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Replies: 16Last Post Dec. 29, 2006 11:08am by Kayling
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to make a long story short I'm in a lesbian relation ship and would never leave her over something like this i just needed to get it out....

sometimes i want a baby. i would rather adopt a baby so it could be equally "ours and not ours" but my girlfriend doesn't want to have kids.
i knew this before we got together but she also knew that i did want kids. we sometimes get into "arguments" about it but i know she doesn't want kids so i just want to stop talking about it. is there anything i can do to make this wanting to have a baby feeling go away?
I'm 22 and she's a bit older so please dont say that she will change her mind later.

anyway i just had to get this out.

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Get a puppy?

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sounds like youve still got your maternal instinct and she doesnt

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Quote: from bukkakejesus at 8:04 am on Dec. 29, 2006

Get a puppy?

do you think a puppy will be the same?

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Quote: from dirty paws at 8:05 am on Dec. 29, 2006

Quote: from bukkakejesus at 8:04 am on Dec. 29, 2006

Get a puppy?

do you think a puppy will be the same?


Oh no, of course not.  But I think it may help, you're always going to want a child... it's who you are, you can't really make that feeling just go poof.


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have u evr tried to adopt?

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Sounds tricky...
Maybe you could babysit, or become a social worker, or help out at some kind of group like brownies or something...?

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im only seventeen but i'm imagining myself being in your position. i imagine it's normal for women around ur age to feel the desire to have kid(s)? i think with time it will pass? i think adopting a baby is a good idea... it would make things much easier also

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i think that would just make me want to have a kid of my own

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Quote: from soccerdude14 at 8:07 am on Dec. 29, 2006

have u evr tried to adopt?

Have you ever tried reading all of a topic before posting?


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i thought of the puppy thing, a seven year old can take care of a puppy - it would be MUCh different. puppy doesnt provide fulfillment - the feeling of knowing youve made a difference to a child's life, i dont think u "bring up" a puppy, i think you simply take care of it.

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hehe i love puppies.

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Quote: from me0 at 8:10 am on Dec. 29, 2006

i thought of the puppy thing, a seven year old can take care of a puppy - it would be MUCh different. puppy doesnt provide fulfillment - the feeling of knowing youve made a difference to a child's life, i dont think u "bring up" a puppy, i think you simply take care of it.

Obviously, but it's the next best thing.  A puppy will require a lot of care and training for the first few weeks of it's life. So in a way, you will be "bringing it up", it just doesn't take as long or as much work to do. After that, you will have its selfless love.


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A relationship is about compromise and both people need to stop being selfish and think about their other partner.

I'm a 21 yr-old girl and I know the feeling of wanting to be a mother. Having children is an experience that every woman she be offered regardless of their sexual orientation. If your partner truly loves you she'll remain in the relationship with you even after you adopt your child. You let her know that she doesn't have to be active in this child's life...after all this is UR baby but she needs to respect that you have needs and you want to give this baby your love and attention while you are young and able. If she doesn’t agree on adoption then I suggest you go to an adoption agency and try to adopt yourself, go to a sperm bank and get a donor, or see if any of your male friends are willing to help you in this process.

No one should give up their dreams to make someone else happy.... having a baby is the right thing. If you really feel that you are ready for this then make the first big mommy decision and look out for your baby’s well being and not anyone else’s…go adopt your baby.


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Some people want different things out of life. That's why a lot of people do end up breaking up.

There's nothing you can do really. If you want children, you want children. You're either going to have to break up, or keep quiet about it, which really would be rather stressful.

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