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Diplomacy is the most important aspect. Be able to get along with the smartest kid in the class and the dumbest gangsta kid.

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This one doesn't seem to be able to help me as much.  I'm not bragging, but it's just the sad fact at my school - I'm the smartest kid in the class.  By a long shot.

So my hurdle is kind of unique - how exactly do I get kids to stop thinking of me just as "the brain," which kind of carries a certain geekish aspect to it?  I've tried for years and nothing's worked.

- Kraahkan -

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I'll never understand it either...

If you're the smartest kid in the class, you don't have to 'play the roll'. Don't act sophisticated, because that emmits arrogance to an extreme. You need to be able to act laid back, talk about sex and drugs, and relate to others on their level. I've never touched a drug in my life, but half my friends are stoners and alcoholics...I still talk to them about what they want to talk about, and relate.

Say what's up and slap hands with the jocks. Maybe even go to the occasional party, but stay clean. Put yourself off as what they can relate to, and want to associate with. As they become comfortable with you, be your normal self mixed in with that slight tweak around them. Think of someone in a class you never see yourself getting along with or talking to, and try to be friends with that person. You just can't be flat out 'you'. Try to be 'you' with a slight mix of their aspect.

It's a difficult concept to explain, I don't know...I just mapped everything out like I posted, then followed through start to finish. In one year, I went from reject to too many friends, I have to choose who to hang out with when. So I've done well by it, anyways  :p

Well, anyways...Don't try to be the brain. Don't be the brain trying to be like everyone else either. Just be like others, and adjust slightly as you're around different people. There's a kid in my homeroom that walks down the hall reading a book. There's another kid that waddles along with an airport rolling bag, when he has the only one in the school. Don't do things like that. That's just asking for it. If you want to change the ways others see you, you should step back and view yourself from their point of view. If you truly do this, you'll see whatever slight tidbits about you need tweaking. I used big words too much around others. I stopped. Things like this are very helpful

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And then his mind exploded.

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This one doesn't seem to be able to help me as much.  I'm not bragging, but it's just the sad fact at my school - I'm the smartest kid in the class.  By a long shot.

So my hurdle is kind of unique - how exactly do I get kids to stop thinking of me just as "the brain," which kind of carries a certain geekish aspect to it?  I've tried for years and nothing's worked.

- Kraahkan -

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Modesty aside, I was branded as a nerd in our batch for I am one of the top students of the 'cream' class... But one thing I am really proud of is that I can relate to almost everyone... From the bitchy type of girls to the warfreak boys, I am friends with them... Good thing I overcame my shyness... They chose me to be the batch leader and I accepted it for it feels good to be trusted... It first made me scared to handle more than 200 people but it paid off when I get to know them well... Though they still tease me as a nerd, now it comes with fun and friendship... I guess we all have ways to get along well with other people... All we need is to try... But don't try too hard... We can't just please everyone... :D

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...but though i cannot fly, i'm not content to crawl...

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That's really good advice, which I am going to try and follow. I also try and convince myself my crush won't bite my head off (*imagines it and cracks up laughing*) so I should just say 'hi'

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I have a crush on this really hot guy, ive had a crush on him for ages, almost 2 years, hes really cute, but im not really good looking, Plastik, you said to smile, what if you have discustingly ugly buck yellow teeth? well, i dont have teeth like that, but my teeth are ugly, and i hate smiling cos they are ugly, but i do say hi to my crush sumtimes, ive only started to because my friends helped me to do it by saying hi to him aswell, and when i said hi, he ignored me, so i tried again, and i said hi, and he was jsut walking past looking bored, and i said hi and his face lit up and he said hey. god he is cute

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The 'who' when you call 'who's there?'
A bad actress in a wonderful play. an ugly bird in a beautiful cage.
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Hygiene really isn't that difficult a concept.

(Edited by chalkboard sonata at 12:14 am on April 22, 2004)

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Fucking for fear of not wanting to fear again.

thankz alot :D

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chomp on this!!!

Any ideas for introductions:
me; hi you might've seen me about school but im pade. would you like to do something sometime?
her; sure
me; can I have your number
her;sure *writes down
me; ok Ill call you later and maybe we can plan something

is that ok?

if I fail(psshh ya right who fails )

me; ; hi you might've seen me about school but im pade. would you like to do something sometime?
her; no
me; ok well talk to you later

is that a ok of doing it?

Im hoping by getting a girlfriend I can then help raise my cofidence and hopefully start suceeding even more in life because all day I walk around with no satisfaction in life and hope. My parents dont support me and my friends dont show it if they do. Im hoping by a GF she will plus she can always physically approve of me.

thanks for listening to me ranting/venting and please feel free to ask/answer and questons

Figuring things out for yourself is really what it's all about. You learn from mistakes, not from success. Success, if anything, just ruins what you've learnt, and makes you re-learn it again later. I'm glad I had to deal with neglect. I willed myself to learn everything I know. Even in school. I took all AP classes throughout high school because I wanted to satisfy myself, and maybe get a "Hey, nice job" along the way. When I finally did cough up a girlfriend, I realized it didn't help anything at all too...it just ends up adding complications to the fire, and you wish you were single again...then when you become single again, you wish you had her back...and if you're extra unlucky, you'll get her back and realize why you broke up in the first place. To be frank, it's all bullshit.

As for suicide...If you really think it out thoroughly, you'll see it for what it is. If I could communicate with suicide victims, I would laugh at them. Idiots. Think it all becomes better when it all goes away? That's dumb. You cannot contemplate non existence no matter how much you try, or fool yourself into thinking you can. The closest you can come is imagining your consciousness in a void.  Hey, your consciousness goes away, and your brain dies. There's no void. There's no nothingness for you to appreciate. You cannot imagine or describe nonexistence, period. As such, you can't compare it as something that is good or bad. It is neither. It isn't better. It isn't worse. It isn't the same. It isn't. Things don't get better; they don't anything. If you think your problems are too severe to go on living -- CHANGE YOUR LIFE! Make it different. Go pick up a hooker if that floats your boat. Be a lazy bum and don't work. Move. Most suicide victims think they're gonna go into either some afterlife or an empty void of nonexistence where they can think away, without their problems lingering overhead. Blatantly wrong. The rest think nothingness is better than their problems. Wrong. You can't compare or rate something that cannot be conceived.
Edit: Oh...if you're a religious one...suicide victims achieve an afterlife of ultimate suffering. Infinitely worse than what you have now or have ever had. That's not very good either :(

And alas...don't try to get attention. Make attention.

(Edited by Plastik at 3:09 am on May 1, 2004)

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And then his mind exploded.

But like they say. Today I just talked to two girls and it's true. One I talked to in PE for like 5 mins and it was pure confidence. I put it in my voice though I had none and she went off for ever. All I had to do was acknowledge her and she did the rest. EASY.

Did the same with another girl. It's easy guys just start it off and they do the rest and im not joking.

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