Since the start of last year, me and my friend, who shall be called john have been chasing these 2 girls, who are also friends. Lets call the girl my friend likes charlotte, and the girl I liked jane.
By the end of the year, here's what the situation was, we became very good friends with them both, especially me with charlotte, to the point where I was really better friends with her than john. She was brilliant, and would help me and give me advice about Jane and we could talk to each other about anything. By the end of the year though, we thought wed gotten somewhere with them, but, to cut a long story short, after some drunken parties, the friend group was broken up a bit, and me and john were left heart broken and resenting Jane and charlotte.
Charlotte knew just how much shed hurt John, and with help from me, made a huge effort to build there friendship back up, and she did. Jane on the other hand, didn't really do so well with me, and we drifted apart. Despite what happened, John still really did like charlotte, but that was ok, because they were best friends now, and nothing was going to change that between them.
So now things were pretty normal on the whole, Id gotten over Jane, which wasn't easy, I was very hurt by what had happened, but what had helped me get over her, was new girl, who will be called Mary. Id known Mary as long as Jane, and those two were friends as well. During all the crap that happened with Jane, Mary was always there for me, and I think Id felt fondly of her for this, but until all the jane stuff was over, it didn't really occur to me that me and mary had become such good friends, and that I did indeed most definitely feel more than a friend for her.
So it continued, John kept chasing Charlotte, and I turned my attentions to Mary, me and jane did patch things up aswell, were friends.
Time went on, and me and john were getting very tiresome of the situation, sure we knew the odds were against us, but we still thought or hoped, that trying hard, and having genuinely good intentions, we might have gotten somewhere by now.
Then Charlotte and John, after what had been a long time coming, finally get together, and I honestly couldn't be more happy for them both, there 2 of my best friends, and its about time those 2 found some happiness.  
But this left me feeling very bad. Why couldn't I get the same brake as john? I feel so down and dejected by the entire situation, I've never felt so lonely or worthless before.  And what doesn't help is John and Charlotte both telling me about there good time, But I refuse to let on to either of them how I feel, I'm not going to kill there good time, and if I was in there situation, id want to talk about it too, but still they keep talking about it to me, and it just makes me feel ten times worse about my own situation each time they do.
I'm still good friends with, but painfully nothing more with Mary, whose perhaps the most lovely girl ive ever met, she knows how I feel, and she's been really nice about it, things are normal between us. But to now complicate matters Jane's started being very friendly with me all of a sudden again, I know shes probably looking for someone at the moment, but I'm trying my best to read nothing into her new attitude towards me, as I don't want more disappointment, and she is also just a reasonably flirty person, but she has been acting distinctly different towards me lately, and I do still have a bit of a soft spot for her...

During all of this, and I hate myself for letting it, But I got so wrapped up in everything, my academic life has most definitely suffered from it. I cant seem to win socially or academically, I don't know what I'm meant to do anymore, or how I'm meant to act anymore. Although I have given up hope on Mary, I still like her a lot, and she really isn't the sort its going to be easy to get over, and were very good friends too, which makes getting over her doubly difficult.

I don't think ive ever been quite so down about my life before, I'm trying to do better and focus more on my studies now, though it may be too late as it is,   My friends and teachers have definitely twigged there's something up, and I do have a close group of friends who I can and do talk about all this with, but still, it doesn't really seem to make me feel any better anymore.

I absolutely don't know what to do. Any advice or thoughts would be kindly appreciated  

Bah.  These situations always seem more important that they actually should.  It seems as if you are focusing more on having a relationship that finding a person that you would want to be in a relationship with.  So, why don't you just sit back and relax?  Buckle down on school work and strive to get back to where you were academically before you worry about relationships.  Hang out with your friends, and focus on having fun and not worrying about the relationship thing.

Basically, Don't stress.  Things that seem important to you now will mean nothing to you 10 years down the line.  Make your high school/college life the happiest you can, and don't get hung up on the bad stuff.  Just sit back and let life happen and focus on the things you need to focus on to make your life better in the long run.

I had not had a relationship for 3 years when I met my girlfriend, and now I am the happiest I've ever been in my life.  The thing is, we didn't even have to work at it.  It just happened.  The best relationships are ones that you don't have to work at.

Hope I helped, feel free to PM with more detail or more questions.

~Shaun

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