I haven't been out in 3 years. I want to but if I go to the store with out him I feel bad so I buy him a lot of toys and things like that..

I am being a bad mother if I go out?

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I just wanted to know (I have a 3 year old son) if it was ok to leave him home with a baby sitter while I went out for a while?

I haven't been out in 3 years. I want to but if I go to the store with out him I feel bad so I buy him a lot of toys and things like that..

I am being a bad mother if I go out?

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no, what makes you a bad mother is that you're a self described "Master of Weed".

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Just get a good sitter, ask your mates wether there are any ones they could recommend and then you will eb all set.

Kids love getting baby sat really.

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Life is short? Life is the longest thing ever!!

You can't go out and get completely smashed and come home shattered. You have to be ready to be a parent again when you come home. That's the only thing I'd say. It's fine to go out but just remember the coming back part too. ;-)

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Holly.
Mama to Hunter Kai.
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You need time alone to relax and be able to just think.

And it's good for your son to not be TOO attached to you. A healthy bond is great, but kids also need to be around other people. Time apart would probably be great and make it easier when he starts school.

Just make sure you use a good sitter so you aren't worried. A responsible family member or friend would be great. If you don't have one of those, then there are agencies around that have babysitters that have taken a course to make sure they're properly trained. :)

Have fun!

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kid, I wrote back,
all lovers betray.

Parents are allowed to go out.  Having a child doesn't mean you're suddenly chained to the house.  It just means you have to be more responsible when it comes to going out.

It would also be good for him to spend time with other people.  If he's never away from you, how do you think he's going to handle starting school?

You might want to cut it out with the guilt purchases as well.  That will come back and bite you on the ass if you end up going to the store to get something you need and don't have the money to buy extras.

I just recently had to break my 3 year old on that one because a family friend (who has basically stepped into the role of Grandma) got into the habit of buying her something whenever she went to the store.  End result was Lyriel expected something anytime anyone went to the store, and it got very obnoxious very quickly.

If you're trying your best to do what is right for your son, you're likely a great mother.  Don't beat yourself up.


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