Like my younger brother who is 17 and is such a fucking loser that he won't leave his goddamn bedroom. He'll sit there day in and day out and eat junk food and guzzle soda and play video games. Won't go out to see a movie, won't go on any dates, etc. And he wonders why he has no friends, they all get sick of the stupid fucker! They sit and play for so long and then they want to go out and do something but my brother won't leave his musty room. The whole thing stinks, he won't clean it, it smells like hamster piss and dirty laundry. He's so bad that my Gram seems to think he'll be dead by 30...asthma, horrible eating habits, no social life, no skills, no work ethic, etc. I mean, he's actually worse off than most teens, he's fucking awful.

Then there's my Mom who raised him and defends him. "Everything has a way of working itself out." There you go you dumb fucking moron, religion makes it all okay! God is just going to fix everything! His eating habits, his way of thinking, his laziness, EVERYTHING! Yeah, I wouldn't make the fucking loser shower or eat right or even leave the house, what's the point in that when he can sit in his room all goddamn day long, stink, and get fat while "going to school" online...and flunking, mind you! He's so damn stupid that he only has four VERY basic classes and he still flunks almost every fucking one! How the hell do you do that? The school he attends is basically set up for fucking slackers to coast through, public school rejects, how the hell do you flunk?!?!?!

And then there's my ex who I hate with all my heart most days now. Thanks for lying to me, thanks for being a pussy, thanks for giving up. Why the hell did you even bother me if you were going to be so weak? If you knew you were a pussy, why even talk to me, huh? Was it some kind of joke? Is it a joke now that you keep playing with me? Well fuck you, I'm done with you, too. I don't want anyone fuckin' asking me for anything or looking to me for support anymore. I can't get any myself and no one gives two shits about me so I quit.

Post edited at 1:38 pm on July 4, 2008 by Anonymous

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anger management FTW

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THIS...is my anger management. I hold it in, try and help people, try and be rational...but sooner or later, I just snap, I can't take it anymore and need to rant. Really, these people are fuckin' nuts.

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You sound like my bitchy sister.

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You're fat and don't shower either?

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Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 4:38 pm on July 4, 2008

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You sound like my bitchy sister.

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You're fat and don't shower either?

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Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 4:38 pm on July 4, 2008

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You sound like my bitchy sister.

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You're fat and don't shower either?

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LOL!  Rant on OP, rant on!

As for him, you cannot change him but I understand your frustration.

Your Mom needs to be realistic and get the boy some counselling! God has better things to do than march someone who won't help himself into a counsellor's office where he can help himself for a start. (Tell your Mom I said that- she'll listen to me!)

My guess is that your Mom gets something out of this situation the way it is- a sense of control maybe, or maybe being "needed" by him to get him through  his day. Maybe the counsellor will offer a 2 for 1 discount.

One more shot in the dark- I'd be very surprised if your brother does not have clinic depression , at least based on the way you've described his situation. For that, he should see a doctor, maybe right before the counsellor.

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Quote: from Anonymous at 1:39 pm on July 4, 2008

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Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 4:38 pm on July 4, 2008

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You sound like my bitchy sister.

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You're fat and don't shower either?

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Im average and I do, but my sis criticizes me in everything I do. I wish I killed her long ago

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I don't criticize him for everything he does, I just can't stand by and keep quiet when things are so insane, you know? What 17 year old doesn't want to look at least half decent when he's around his peers? I can only remember one kid not showering/brushing his teeth in high school and it was totally gross. All of the other guys made sure they came in and, at the very least, didn't stink. You can't get a girl that way and it gets you picked on.

And, really...I know kids play games a lot these days but my brother is so obsessive about it that it's all he has. He has no friends, they all got sick of sitting in his bedroom and playing video games. They want to go out and do stuff and no one can get my brother out of his damn bedroom. He's even stopped going to the movies with my Mom and I and we all three used to go together all the time.

His room is filthy, too. And then he wonders, "Hey, where are my clothes Mom?!?!" You're standing on them you idiot, you didn't bother to put them in the hamper and you didn't wash them, you don't know how, and so now you have no clean clothes.

He's a mess, really. My Gram worries about him all the time but she stopped telling my Mom about her "parenting" techniques long ago because she knows my Mom doesn't listen. She truly thinks he'll be dead by 30/35 because he doesn't get any exercise, eats AWFUL food (and large amounts of it), doesn't brush his teeth, skips bathing for days, is lazy, has asthma, etc. And, I sort of worry, too...I can't not live my life to stay at home and take care of my brother because my parents didn't teach him how to take care of himself.

Quote: from greenskittles at 4:42 pm on July 4, 2008

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wow, i cant believe your bf broke up with you, you're such a sweetie

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Did you ever stop to think that maybe I am sweet? And that maybe that's why I'm stressed out? That maybe I've been taking care of my brother's shit since I was about 8 and am tired of cleaning up after him? Or that I put up with my ex's shit for 8 months and still am because he gets upset when I go and I feel guilty and don't want to abandon him? Or did you just scan my OP and post to get your point?

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Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 4:38 pm on July 4, 2008

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You sound like my bitchy sister.

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You're fat and don't shower either?

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LOL! Rant on OP, rant on!

As for him, you cannot change him but I understand your frustration.

Your Mom needs to be realistic and get the boy some counselling! God has better things to do than march someone who won't help himself into a counsellor's office where he can help himself for a start. (Tell your Mom I said that- she'll listen to me!)  

My guess is that your Mom gets something out of this situation the way it is- a sense of control maybe, or maybe being "needed" by him to get him through his day. Maybe the counsellor will offer a 2 for 1 discount.  

One more shot in the dark- I'd be very surprised if your brother does not have clinic depression , at least based on the way you've described his situation. For that, he should see a doctor, maybe right before the counsellor.

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I don't think he's depressed, I think he's just lazy. He's a pretty happy kid but he's never been made to do anything and so he's gotten rather lazy and lax. If you take his games away from him and tell him to shape up or he won't get them back, he becomes a little scholar and runs around cleaning things up. Give 'em back and back on his ass he goes.

I think my Mom treats him the way she does because she's just a soft person, she hates being tough. My Gram sort of seems to think it might be because she was strict with her kids...and so my Mom is swinging in the other direction but we're not really sure what's up. I kind of think she just has more of her Dad in her than her Mom. He was never heavy into disciplining his kids, either, that was Gram's job.

Post edited at 10:03 pm on July 4, 2008 by Anonymous