I'm going on 21 years old, never had a gf, never kissed a girl, etc.

This past Tuesday night, I man'ed up and asked out a girl I met that night and was instantly attracted to. She seemed to like me and we went on a date.

The following night we went back to her dorm, made out for a while and I ended up going a bit further than making out, but when I went to go slip her pants off she wasn't ready and I respected that.

Ever since then things have been kind of odd... We still kiss and hang out and such, but it seems like something has been lost. I'm not really sure if I just moved too fast that night or what. I guess we were just extremely into each other that night.

I spoke with a friend of mine this morning who is good friends with the girl I was dating and he said that he had some bad news - supposedly my girlfriend went out last night and got really drunk and ended up making out with another guy. I then found out that the reason her last bf dumped her was because of the same reason.

This hurt me deeply and I confirmed it with my girlfriend. I tried to hide the fact that I knew about it, but she confessed. She then apologized and asked if we could still be together and I told her that as long as she promised me she'd never do it again, I believe in giving people a second chance. We have both had really rough lives, her growing up in foster homes, and myself growing up with my grandparents and other family. For some reason, because of this, I believe that I owe everyone a second chance, because I was given one myself.

I went to visit her today and she was very reserved and quiet, as was I. Yesterday, she introduced me to her best friends from her old town, and today I was introduced to her past foster family and blood family that she still associates with. Everyone loved me and said that she had really moved up from who she had been going with. This leads me to believe that she's been cheated on many times and thinks that it's ok. I, would NEVER cheat on anyone. EVER. It's just not right.

I've always been an advocate to my friends about "once a cheater, always a cheater" and they have stood by it. I've discussed this entire ordeal with my friends and they keep referring me to what I've told them and say that it's time to move on.

I REALLY, REALLY, like this girl. Honestly, I think I've fallen in love with her in the past week, but the cheating has devistated me. I'd just like to get a few more oppinions before I make my final decision...

Thanks for your time,

I personally dont think im a cheater but its POSSIBLE. Drugs, drinking, pressure, just the environment that i might be in.. i might make a mistake and cheat. In that case, i would definitely apologize to my gf and be sincere.. is this the case for her? Cause if that happened to me.. i would want a second chance

I think you did/are doing the right thing.

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Future. Sex. Love. Sound.
Just tell me which way you like it.

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Wait a minute, you've only been going out for a week?

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Yeah... that's what gets me.
But here's how I look at it... drunk and stupid. That's how I saw it before she even said that, word for word.

My friend's gf told me that when she found out about it she asked my gf if she even liked me and she said yes, then she asked her why she would ever do something like that to me and she just walked away.

Any and all comments are greatly appreciated and I'd like to get many opinions before I make my final decision.

Thanks