is the worst thing that has ever happened to me. please someone give me advice.
i've had a boyfriend for well over a year now, and i love him, i really do. but i've completely fell in love with my best friend who is a girl. we've hooked up, and i can't help but want and need more.
before when people would say they loved more than one person, i didn't believe them. i always thought you loved once, one person.
someone tell me what to do. because i can't put up with this anymore.
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i think u can love two ppl at once. parents can love all 12 of there kids so u should be able to love ur 2 friends
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It's not a matter of being bisexual so much as being in love with two people at once. That can happen to someone of any sexual orientation.
At this point, you need to decide what's more important to you; maintaining the relationship you have with your boyfriend, or ending that and persuing whatever you have with your friend. The choice is ultimately up to you. However, you need to choose just one. It's not fair to either of them to be undecided.
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i was in a situation simillar to yours... i talked to my boyfriend at the time about it and he said that he would give me some space to think things threw and to figure out who i wanted to be with more...and me and him ended up being best friends...
i say just talk to him and her about it...if he really cares then he should be willing to be there to help you through it... and she should to if she cares
hope this helps...
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Quote: from greatescape11 at 6:09 pm on Oct. 13, 2008
It's not a matter of being bisexual so much as being in love with two people at once. That can happen to someone of any sexual orientation.
At this point, you need to decide what's more important to you; maintaining the relationship you have with your boyfriend, or ending that and persuing whatever you have with your friend. The choice is ultimately up to you. However, you need to choose just one. It's not fair to either of them to be undecided.
This is correct.^
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You should tell him how you feel about her.
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Quote: from greatescape11 at 6:09 pm on Oct. 13, 2008
It's not a matter of being bisexual so much as being in love with two people at once. That can happen to someone of any sexual orientation.
At this point, you need to decide what's more important to you; maintaining the relationship you have with your boyfriend, or ending that and persuing whatever you have with your friend. The choice is ultimately up to you. However, you need to choose just one. It's not fair to either of them to be undecided.
I think you're right about this, but still... There probably is a difference in being a relationship with a man versus a woman, things you miss out on. Only bisexuals really get this dilemma.
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Quote: from greatescape11 at 6:09 pm on Oct. 13, 2008
It's not a matter of being bisexual so much as being in love with two people at once. That can happen to someone of any sexual orientation.
At this point, you need to decide what's more important to you; maintaining the relationship you have with your boyfriend, or ending that and persuing whatever you have with your friend. The choice is ultimately up to you. However, you need to choose just one. It's not fair to either of them to be undecided.
I think you're right about this, but still... There probably is a difference in being a relationship with a man versus a woman, things you miss out on. Only bisexuals really get this dilemma.
Physical differences. Not at all related to the situation the OP seems to be in. If the problem were "Do I like men or women more?" then yes...it would be a different answer. But that does not seem to be the case. I get the dilemma just fine.
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